This multidimensional context greatly affects our relationships, and especially our love relationships. And especially relationships of lightworkers, because they are highly sensitive, constantly in the process of transformation, and extra in the crosshairs of external, unseen, sabotaging forces. It is therefore quite an art to maintain a love relationship under these circumstances.

Old wounds constantly come up to the surface to be healed in those continuous transformation processes, and these “open wounds” can cause temporary emotional and mental turbulence, sometimes subtle, sometimes intense. Sometimes our own Higher Selves have a hand in causing the necessary triggers to activate an old wound and bring it to the surface, and those triggers arise pre-eminently in the mirroring interaction within love relationships. And sometimes a trigger is not necessary, and the wound will surface on its own. But in either case, the open wounds that temporarily come to the surface will affect our mood, our vulnerability, our resilience, our tolerance, our irritation limits, AND often our tendencies to project. These wounds usually only require time, to be dissolved in the aura, especially in the astral and emotional bodies, over several days or weeks, and in the case of deep wounds such as the Atlantis trauma, even months or years. But in the meantime, while these wounds are healing, we have a life to lead, of relationships and work, in which we interact with other people, and the question is always to what extent we let the open wounds affect these interactions. In these interactions, because of a lack of understanding of the presence and background of these active, old wounds within ourselves, there exists the trap of projection, in which we look for possible, visible causes outside of ourselves in the present or recent past and point to the behavior of others as the cause, when this is not the real cause, but only a trigger or mirror that allows us to experience the active, old wound more consciously and strongly. When we are unaware of these potential mechanisms within ourselves, it can lead to victim behavior and unwarranted judgments and blame toward those around us. It can lead in such situations to an attitude of “You are hurting me” rather than “You are triggering an old wound that you had no role in.”

It is not an easy task to always keep the processing of these old wounds to ourselves, without letting it shape our behavior toward the other, without letting it affect our relationships. And this is especially true when both partners within a love relationship are going through similar transformational processes, working through active, old wounds, which can temporarily strengthen their egos, increase irritation levels and take the harmonizing power of love to a lower level, creating friction and conflict. The key then is to try to stay in a reflective attitude and natural self-control and not fall into projection, but this is not always easy and I suspect that everyone, and certainly lightworkers, will find recognition in this challenge. If you don’t manage to stay in this state, of course it’s also ok, it’s not something to condemn. Moreover, expressing also has a catalytic function and the friction can lead to useful communication and new, shared insights. But it can also disturb the mutual dynamic too much and make the tensions too great for the survival of the relationship.

But in addition to these dynamics in living through our transformational processes at this particular time, there is something else going on that affects relationships, which specifically has to do with the nature and mechanics of the collective ascension process, which I want to go into in a moment. We conveniently call it ascension process, but we all know that it is not only about ascension, but also about descension, about descent, grounding. Without healthy grounding, there is no healthy increase of frequency. It is an expansion process. We are not just growing “upward” nor just “downward,” we are expanding in all directions at the same time, as an ever-expanding field. In this process, increase of frequency without grounding succeeds only up to a certain level, but after that is soon accompanied by overloading of the nervous system, psychological imbalance and hypersensitivity to influence by external impulses and forces.

The collective ascension process is largely about balancing our yin and yang, our inner, masculine/feminine balance (regardless of whether one is male or female). When one has a highly developed yin force, one is a strong and deep feeler (and connector), and when one has a highly developed yang force, one is a strong and deep thinker. In an unbalanced state, one is usually at the expense of the other. Feeling and thinking then crowd each other instead of working together. Most people have developed one more than the other. In spite of all the so-called advice about manifestation techniques that you are bombarded with on the Internet, it is mainly people who are both strong feelers and strong thinkers who are powerful manifesters, but that is not something that you activate in a course or a mental lifehacking trick. It requires healing, balancing and developing our emotional and mental power.

All of us, lightworkers especially, within the context of the collective ascension process are accelerating the balancing of these yin yang forces within ourselves. What we have failed to do in hundreds of incarnations, we are now doing momentarily in about 30 years. We receive this healing and balancing within the aforementioned transformation processes as a dispensation, necessary for ascension, and intrinsic to our light work, our contribution to the collective ascension process. This takes place through various, parallel processes in our energy field, which collectively upgrade our human template, but the process of releasing trauma is central to this. The consequence of this release is that we become less compacted, raise our frequency, ground deeper, activate higher chakras, embody higher light bodies and reactivate DNA strands.

This is what happens at the individual level, but there is also a more macrocosmic process behind it, in which we all participate as well, and of which we are all microcosmic expressions. This is the Divine Plan, in which humanity is instrumental as an anchor point, and in which huge, multi-universal fields are involved and involving immense interests, mostly beyond our imagination. The Golden Age that has just been activated on Earth, the golden consciousness that is returning, is precisely a reflection of the yin yang balance, at the micro and macro level. It is the end of patriarchy and matriarchy in ourselves, and therefore in society. This new balance trades power for love and gives more space to the inner child, making life more free, honest and playful.

On average, you can say that women are coming more into their masculine power, and men are coming more into their feminine power. And that new balance brings with it for each individual a sense of inner security and solidity, which was less there before and projected outward unconsciously within relationships. Men and women were unconsciously judged under the influence of the inner, wounded man and the inner, wounded woman. The yin yang imbalance in one thereby triggered the yin yang imbalance in the other. This yin yang balancing going on collectively heals the inner man and the inner woman, making it easier and more natural to keep the consciousness centered in the heart, and making the love of the heart the dominant force within one’s own consciousness, and within relationships.

Although I speak somewhat generally about grounding, it is also about something very intimate that is at play in this. It is about the feminine receiving the masculine, and the masculine allowing itself to be received by the feminine. Both internally and externally. The yoni receiving the lingam. The angel receiving the dragon. From the perspective at the highest macro level, it is about the Divine Mother receiving the Divine Father, thus fertilizing the universe and bringing a universal cycle to completion. And this grand, inner process is mirrored on the micro level in the relationship between men and women, in their love, vulnerability, intimacy and sexuality. Safety and inertia are essential in this. The feminine wants to feel safety in receiving the masculine, with love, gentleness and respect. And the masculine equally wants to be received with safety, with love, gentleness and respect. Both desire to be approached with integrity, authenticity and transparency, in freedom and purity, without any form of coercion or manipulation. And both unconsciously feel it when trauma or unloving intentions get in the way of that, causing safety to fall away. For this reason, descension, the grounding path within the ascension process, is a very delicate healing process, on both the micro and macro level. So inside, so outside, and so above, so below. In which, in turns, in small steps, healing of both the masculine and feminine takes place within ourselves, so that the masculine can slowly come in. This requires a lot of healing especially in the lower chakras. There can be a lot of trauma and fears stored in the pelvis, abdomen, solar plexus and heart that get in the way of good grounding, that do not allow access to a solid embodiment of our greater consciousness and energy field. Our higher light bodies, our higher self parts, want to enter into us, but first space must first be created for that.

One of the pillars and great challenges in this process of grounding and yin yang balancing, is the masculine descending into his feeling. Grounding is not only about physical grounding, it is also about emotional grounding. Everyone immediately recognizes this fact as one of the greatest conditions for coming into a new state of balance and harmony. Within ourselves, within our relationships, and within society. It is what ends patriarchy, in which the harshness of numbness is replaced by gentleness and empathy. But it is a very delicate and multidimensional process that we ourselves with our self-healing can only influence to a certain extent, and it is good to be aware of this. It gives more insight into the psychology of modern masculinity in these times, inner and outer.
What I want to get to is sharing the understanding that the ascension process follows a certain, cosmic timing that cannot be rushed. Therein lies a crux that up to this point has been of great influence on the extent to which the masculine could come into his feelings, and thus has been of great influence on the psychological dynamics in relationships. Therefore, it requires extra understanding, patience and surrender. The role of this timing has not, in my opinion, been sufficiently highlighted in reflections to date. In simple terms, many men for a long time could not quite sink in, get into their feelings, land in their gut. Even endless trauma work and attending workshops focused on men’s work could only bring movement there in a trickle. This to the frustration of these men, and their relationships. By the way, I am using men as an example here, but of course it applies equally well to the masculine energy within women. Women with a predominant yang energy will also have experienced difficulty sinking into their belly, getting into their feelings.

Many men, and male lightworkers especially, because they have often incarnated at this time with that particular blueprint, represent fields of consciousness that have been slow to land on Earth. They represent anchor points of cosmic energy fields, which in the context of the ascension process want to ground on Earth, but could not yet anchor, because the balance, solidity and wholeness of both the individual themselves, and humanity as a whole, and the planet itself, were not yet ready for that. This descension movement within the ascension process can be viewed on a macrocosmic level as a step-by-step installation process, in which, in precise order and timing, cosmic field by cosmic field is anchored on Earth. But before these fields can anchor, that through which they are received must be healed, and they themselves must be healed. So that they can be received in safety. Safety for the feminine, safety for the Earth. And safety for themselves.

The result of the anchoring of all these fields on Earth, is a grounded, harmonious confluence, which here receives a bedding of the feminine, microcosmically through women and Mother Earth, and macrocosmically through Divine Mother. This confluence leads to a new unity, which brings unity not only on Earth, but also far beyond, according to the size of the cosmic fields involved. That is the scope of the ascension process, that is the Divine Plan. But that requires, at the micro level, the people who are anchors for that, in their bodies and emotional lives, so it requires patience and sacrifice. Which is not easy since most people have no knowledge of this process, of its timing, and of their own cosmic identity and background. Meanwhile, to struggle in ignorance of this in daily life with their yin yang imbalance and lack of feeling. And within their love relationships their partners humanly desire for them to come more into their feelings.

What are these cosmic fields? The nature of these cosmic fields varies widely. These can be many conceivable parties living in the universe, performing many different functions. One should not think so much about incarnated “inhabitants” of the universe, such as ET races, because that is still microcosm. At the macro level, it refers more to the celestial bodies and living, formless, high-dimensional fields that carry and animate entire planets and solar systems, even entire galaxies. They provide a home within their field for thousands of planets and billions of souls. They are, so to speak, the Higher Selves of our Higher Selves of our Higher Selves. Should you think that the role of these anchor points applies only to a few people on Earth, you are wrong. Since every human being is the center of his own universe, ultimately every human being is a potential anchor point for fields as large as universes. Except that we are all in our own unique stage of evolution, with different states of embodiment and different roles within the Creation story.

Regarding the nature of the cosmic fields that are landing on Earth, the dragons should not be forgotten either. These majestic, elemental, creative forces, bringing the elements to solid form with their breath of fire. There is a great connection between the momentary start of the Golden Age, the masculine coming more and more into its feelings on Earth, and the return of the dragon consciousness to Earth. More and more lightworkers are beginning to perceive and work with dragons with their third eye. This assumes that the lightworkers are inwardly ready for it, that the Earth is ready to give more space to these forces, and that the dragons are allowing them to become more visible in the multidimensional ecosystem on Earth, and increasing their interaction with us. It also assumes that after decades of collective healing and balancing of yin and yang within ourselves, we are not only coming more and more into love, but also that the great forces of manifestation in the universe are becoming more and more integrated into us, and are ready at our side to express new, pure creations with us. The first wave of humans is almost ready to express the Golden Age as human angels on the backs of mighty dragons. And yes, on a physical level, although it is still darkest on Earth for a while before the dawn, the new masculine, supported by the dragons, in both men and women, will soon be ready to represent the Divine Will on Earth in surrender to each person’s own, individual I AM THAT I AM, who together in turn serve Source.

I have met many people over the years who were anchors for these fields. They lived their humble lives as human beings, struggling with their grounding, often without realizing the tremendous forces that want to anchor on Earth through their human bodies. Anchor points or aspects of dragon fields, archangel fields, planets, stars, galaxies. Aspects of nearby suns, like our sun, Alcyone and more. And because of the power and proximity of these celestial bodies, and thus the intensive role they play within the Divine Plan on Earth, these people as anchor points had to wait a very long time before they could land more deeply in their feelings. In that context, I myself experienced a difficult, isolated period in my twenties, which was partly because I had no access at all to my emotional body, which was “parked” outside of this solar system, and was only allowed to come in from 2008 onwards to slowly descend further step by step, and is still not fully completed. I was emotionally fed by the archangels before 2008 to give me at least a little bit of a life, and not go down into emptiness and meaninglessness.

In this blog, I zoom in on the process of the male coming into his feelings and the timing behind it, to form and acknowledge understanding that many men have struggled with, usually without realizing it. But women, of course, have had their additional challenges within the context of the ascension process just as much. Where many men couldn’t feel well, which could lead to an empty existence, many women, on the contrary, had to deal with the fact, that they felt everything extra deeply, which gave the transformation processes an extra difficult dimension, which I’m sure also affected their relationships in cases. The many, old wounds that came to the surface over many years to be relayed, was strongly experienced by them, which gave them some very emotionally turbulent decades. And that too may be acknowledged, for the light work they have done with this, for their own growth and that of the collective, has been of immense importance, as a collective anchor point for the Divine Feminine to create space for the Divine Masculine to be able to land on Earth. And especially the large concentration of female lightworkers in the Netherlands have played a crucial role in this.

I must say for completeness that the topic of this blog is not meant to suggest substitution for self-healing activity. I just want to share the insight that this is ALSO at play. The timing within the ascension process, and the masculine coming more and more into his feelings depending on that timing, is of course, with respect to investment in personal growth, no justification to then just wait and sit back. Or to take refuge in the concept that change is only possible in a limited way anyway, and therefore there is “nothing you can do to change.” As always, it is not either-or, but both-and. There is much we can set in motion and heal, including elements within ourselves that are not automatically included in the inherent transformation of the ascension process, and therefore require proactive initiative. For example, deprogramming beliefs that get in the way of grounding, and bringing healing to the lower chakras, are never a bad idea. Any healing that contributes to physical as well as emotional grounding is valuable and deserves consideration. Unless, of course, you intuitively feel that you are in a phase where you do not want to be involved in healing at all. Sometimes we find ourselves in a phase where silence and acceptance of what is, deserves priority.

Be that as it may, we have now come a long way in the ascension process, the Golden Age has been activated, and the increasing, golden energy on Earth will make descending easier and easier for everyone. Personally, as a man, I am grateful for the increasing gut feeling and associated joy of life, and relatedly, the increasing, firm centering in the heart. I hope you experience the same, and that the golden energy on Earth may bring this about more and more for everyone over time!